It’s unfair that the most sensitive and vulnerable people censor themselves the most. It means that all the work we see is by confident people — and confident people aren’t better people than sensitive people.— Liana Finck on the Longform podcast
The river is famous to the fish. The loud voice is famous to silence, which knew it would inherit the earth before anybody said so. The cat sleeping on the fence is famous to the birds watching him from the birdhouse. The tear is famous, briefly, to the cheek. The idea you carry close to your bosom is famous […]Read more
The three hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats nor intellectual achievements, but moral acts: to return love for hate, to include the excluded, and to say, “I was wrong.”— Sydney J. Harris
This week I had a friend in trouble. Everything’s going to work out okay (thanks for asking). They’re going through some things, and I had the privilege of walking through some of the messiness with them, together. And in doing so, I realized — or, I remembered — that a full and real life is […]Read more
It’s okay to love a hobby the same way you’d love a pet; for its ability to enrich your life without any expectation that it will help you pay the rent. What if we allowed ourselves to devote our time and attention to something just because it makes us happy? Or, better yet, because it enables us to truly recharge instead of carving our time into smaller and smaller pieces for someone else’s benefit?
Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become.
— Brooke Hampton
“If you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else.”
― Toni Morrison
From the box of unanswered (unanswerable?) questions: Is it enough to try? I’ve been taught that yes, yes, absolutely YES it is enough to try. Failing is fine. Just do your best, that’s all anyone can ask of you. I’ve heard this philosophy, I’ve preached this philosophy, I’ve lived it. As a parent, it is […]Read more
Interestingly, “growing up” is largely a matter of learning to hide our spirit behind our face, eyes, and language so that we can evade and manage others to achieve what we want and avoid what we fear.
The child’s face is a constant epiphany because it doesn’t yet know how to do this. It cannot manage its face. This is also true of adults in moments of great feeling—which is one reason why feeling is both greatly treasured and greatly feared.
– Dallas Willard, The Divine Conspiracy
by Portia Nelson I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost … I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out. II I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. […]Read more